Mourners remember Marnie Frey

Lindsay Kines
Vancouver Sun

Monday, December 09, 2002

CAMPBELL RIVER -- United Church Reverend Bill Rasmus urged mourners to hold fast to everything they value and know to be true as they face the "unspeakable horror" inflicted on Marnie Lee Frey and other missing women.

Reverend Bill Rasmus says Marnie Lee Frey's death proves that evil still exists.

"If you and I ever doubted at any time that evil and darkness still exist in the world around us, Marnie's death served to do one thing at least, it shattered that ... myth," Rasmus told about 150 people at a memorial service Saturday.

"It shattered the illusions we have that somehow we're insulated from darkness and evil around us. An unspeakable horror was committed against her and against many others."

But in the face of that horror, Rasmus urged people to "hold fiercely to those things we value and we know to be true."

"We say, we will not give up. We will say, we will not be daunted, we will not be cowed by the evil and darkness around us.

"I will hold to my little candle and shine it in my little corner of the world .... We will hold on to love. We will cherish our relationships with family and friends more than we ever have before. We will continue to seek joy. We will work for justice and peace. We will remember that in God's economy, every life is precious.

"It doesn't matter what the darkness around us says. It doesn't matter what others say. In God's economy, every life is precious. Marnie's not just another news story; she is someone precious to God's heart and to yours."

The Frey family was notified last month by members of the Vancouver police-RCMP missing women task force that Marnie's DNA had been recovered at the Port Coquitlam farm partly owned by Robert William Pickton.

Pickton has been charged with murdering 15 women, but has not been charged in Marnie's death.

On Saturday, former Campbell River mayor Jim Lornie read a message from his close friend, Rick Frey, Marnie's father.

Frey thanked the task force, as well as victim's assistance and native liaison workers for helping provide comfort. He also welcomed the relatives of other missing women who attended the service.

"Marnie was such a carefree loving girl," Rick Frey said. "She loved the simple things in life.

"She loved to be with her grandmother at her home on the bank of the Campbell river. They loved to go shopping together."

Ruth McMonagle, who knew Marnie when she attended the Campbell River Christian School, remembered her love of small animals, her bright smile, shining hair and light-hearted spirit.

Other family members told Rasmus about her trustworthiness and giving nature. "She would take her shoes off and give them to someone else and walk home barefoot," Rasmus said.

And as friends and relatives grieve her loss, Rasmus urged them to support one another in the days and weeks to come.

"We still live in a culture and a time where people tell us to just get over it, just face life with a stiff upper lip and get on with it," he said. "Well, that's not really the way life works, is it?

"All of us know from past experience, when we just try to stuff it down and stuff it away somewhere, it ends up coming out in very unhealthy ways. So here we give ourselves permission to face our grief and our sadness straight in the face. Acknowledge it for what it is, respond to it, and walk though it with one another."

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Courtesy of

Marnie Lee Frey



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